When my children started school I did not know what to call myself. Which surname to use. I have never been married but lived in relationship for just over 20 years. I struggled with what surname to use my own or my children's. I found it hard when my daughters were little as I wanted to have the same surname as them, I guess as added proof that I was their mother. I was known as Mrs (insert children's surname) as all our mail was addressed to Mr and Mrs. I also signed letter and notes with this surname.
When my daughters were older my thought processes changed and I realised that I was happy being their mother with my own surname, I was their mother no matter what surname I used. I had trouble with my identity then and I so wish I hadn't, but, oh well, that was a path I had to take to feel happy with myself, being me, with the surname I was born with.
I look back now and think why on earth did I think the way I did. I guess it was my way of coming to terms with who I was and who I wanted to be. I was their mother and no matter what name I went by that was never going to change.
I look back no and realise all that time I procrastinated over this silly little identity crisis finding out years later that it was a pointless and unnecessary though process that helped me become comfortable with who I am right now.
Thank you for reading. I would love to know your thoughts on this. Have you ever had a similar thought process?