We all make judgements, don't we? What people wear, how they react, how they look, how people dress or doing this and that differently to how we would. I have started refocusing my negative thinking to focusing on the positives and I find myself thinking less negatively a lot of the time. I do not like being negative and i am trying to help my daughters to refocus their thoughts to positive ones. Most of all we judge ourselves, especially with parenting or everyday tasks. I used to have so much 'Mother Guilt' when my daughters were little, but there is not much point on thinking what could have or should have been. Focus on the present and make the situations ahead different and happier.
Monitor your thoughts.
Think about what you thinking about. I often go along thinking things about other people, judging them, and I don't even realise it. I'm going to work on paying more attention to my thoughts and do my best to push them in a positive direction.
Look for the positive.
Judgments are negative. There is almostalways something positive you can find in someone or something. While my mind might immediately focus on the negative, I can push my thoughts in a more positive direction and look for something nice to say. And, of course, if you can't find something nice to say, don't say anything at all.
Stereotypes are never, ever good. I really try to avoid them, but I know I don't always. As I said above, they really create a lot of negativity in the world and I know I don't want to be a part of that. I want to work on recognizing stereotypes and working to avoid them at all costs. There is no need for them in my life.
Stop judging yourself.
It's not all that easy to do, but the more we judge ourselves, the more we'll judge others. I judge myself a lot and I need to work on that. I need to focus on the positive aspects of me and then it will be a lot easier to focus on the positive aspects of others. There's no reason to be so hard on myself and I'm going to really, really work on this one.
Focus on your own life.
When all else fails and judgments are hard to push away, focus on yourself. Don't worry about what other people are doing/wearing/etc. Think about your own life. Focus on what you want and go after it. When you're trying to avoid your own problems, it's easy to criticize others. Don't. Think about you and focus on the good things.
Remember how it feels.
Remember how it feels to be judged. AND remember how it felt the last time you judged someone else. It doesn't feel good to judge or to be judged so put an end to it right now. I'm going to work on remember these feelings the next time I feel like a negative thought about someone else is cropping up.
Are you judgmental?
Does it affect your everyday?