Tuesday, April 8, 2014


Everyone has to conquer the good and bad throughout life. Life may not turn out how we planned but choosing how you react to certain situations can make a difference in the outcome of how you handle those obstacles. 

I have been struggling quite a bit lately with so many aspects of my life and I am choosing and try so hard not to dwell on them too much. People tend to say that as time progresses it gets easier and I do believe this but it takes longer some times than a year or two. I have been trying to keep my emotions in check with the occasional welling up of tears in my eyes. Sometimes life can be so hard and getting through each day is a challenge. 

Everyday is a new day and you get to start that day new with new and refreshed vision. Let everyday be worthwhile by spreading love, joy and happiness to those around you. I find posts and uplifting words like these below help me change my focus and clear my head of the negativity and sadness. I hope they inspire you as well.

Be kinder than necessary. 
You will never fully understand some things until these things actually happen to you.  So be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of unique battle.  And remember, you will come across some people in life who always seem to create conflicts.  When you meet them, smile and walk away.  The battle they are fighting isn’t with you, it’s within them.

Put sincere effort into your relationships.
Don’t confuse the people who are always lingering around with the ones who are truly there.  Good relationships don’t just happen, and they aren’t built solely on a foundation of convenience.  They take time, patience, effort, and two people who want to be together and are willing to meet in the middle. 

Remind your loved ones that you love them every chance you get. 
It doesn’t always matter where you go, what you do, or how much you have.  Sometimes all that matters is who you have beside you.  So be grateful for the wonderful people in your life, and let them know how much they mean to you on a regular basis.

Stretch yourself, and make yourself proud. 
You can’t grow unless you do.  Yes, as you stretch you will feel some discomfort.  You will have to deal with the pain of the unknown as you work new emotional and intellectual muscle groups.  But don’t let that stop you.  Far too many people are fearful of the unknown, comfy with putting in the least amount of effort, and not willing to put up with short-term pain for long-term gain.  But not you – you know better.  Stretch yourself, be all you can be and seize your true potential.

Let your tears nourish your healing. 
If tears could talk, this is what they would say:  I am the raindrop that nourishes your healing.  Open your door to me in times of angst.  I will not stay forever.  Only long enough to clear the path of debris so hope and joy can reach you.  Only long enough to cleanse your eyes so your vision will be clear enough to recognize goodness when it comes.

Don’t wait for a reason to be grateful. 
Just be grateful for everything you have now, and the reasons will quickly find you.  Being happy doesn’t always make us grateful, but being grateful will always make us happy.  And if you’re finding it hard to be grateful for something, sit down, close your eyes and take a long slow breath, and be grateful for oxygen.  Every breath you take is in sync with someone’s last.  

Express your appreciation daily. 
Before going to bed tonight, take a moment to appreciate yourself for three things you accomplished today.  If you are in a relationship, take moment to openly discuss and appreciate three things you each accomplished today.  What we focus on expands.  What we appreciate, appreciates in value.

Say less when less means more. 
You are as beautiful as the love you give, and you are as wise as the silence you leave behind.

Rediscover your inner child. 
If you’ve forgotten the feel of joy, and don’t remember when you last felt wonder, let a child lead you back to the days when rocks breathed, and leaves sailed, and happiness was watching water dance through your hands.  Back to a time when you knew that every treasure worth having could be unearthed in your own back yard.

Be good to yourself. 
Look at yourself in the mirror and say, 'I love you, and from now on I’m going to act like it.'  It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself.  When you act as your own best friend, you allow yourself to be happy.  When you are happy, you become a better friend, a better family member, and you inspire others to be happier too. 

Stop waiting for the perfect moment. Take each moment, appreciate it and make it perfect.  If you want to get really good at something or get somewhere new, let go of the notion of perfection and replace it with the notion of endless, playful exploration.  And don’t be afraid of change; oftentimes we will shed something good, and gain something even better.

Inject a little goodness into the world whenever you can. 
When you become overwhelmed because it seems the whole world is exploding with hatred, violence, ignorance, and apathy, you have two choices:  You can either bury your head in the sand, or you can rest your cheek upon it, breathe until you feel whole again, then lift your head and ask, 'How can I add some goodness?'

I have taken all these tips on board as I do love to start each and everyday a fresh and with new vision.

What will you take away from reading the ways to show more love and spread happiness?


  1. What a lovely idea Eleise. A little kindness goes along way.

  2. Kathy www.yinyangmother.comApril 8, 2014 at 1:16 PM

    Some nice thoughts here. I like your description of tears as the water that helps you clease, heal and grow and I loved your evocative take on rediscovering your inner child. Visiting via IBOT.

  3. I love all these tips Vicki. I hope you are able to get through your struggles and have better days ahead. I can relate to having a good cry now and then. It certainly soothes the soul. x

  4. So many great tips here. Particularly love 'don't wait for a reason to be grateful.'That's so true. We already have so many things to be thankful of.

  5. yes we all have things to be grateful for and most of them are right under our noses.

  6. The one that resonates with m is the first one, "Be Kinder than Necessary" and that is something that I always try to do and I find that it comes back to me in such positive ways.
    Great post

    Hello from #teamIBOT

  7. I am with you here. It is always good to be kind

  8. I like mark & angel hack life ... cannot remember how I came across them ... I subscribe to their daily emails & if I have a problem, I sleep on it & usually the next day & sometimes the day after I receive an email from them that talks about what I am trying to resolve!

    Like you I am going through lots of emotional stuff right now & there are days when it is really hard to see the forest for the trees but luckily I have someone that I can talk to & they are able to help me clear my head.

    I wish for you sunshine & blue skies ahead :)

  9. Thank you beautiful lady and I wish you happy days with rays of sunshine everyday. V x


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