Monday, May 27, 2013

4 lessons on how to FIND THE RIGHT DIRECTION


'Life’s blows cannot break a person whose spirit is warmed by the fire of enthusiasm.' - Norman Vincent Peale


1. Stop over-thinking.
So much of our stress and anxiety about the future stems from all the analysis and thinking we do as adults. We ask ourselves all sorts of questions. I recall countless nights lying awake, entertaining ideas and wrestling with my soul. I tried so hard to figure out where I would end up that I often felt defeated before I even began.
But all the over-analysis got me nowhere; it just burned more time.
The reality is that no matter how smart we may be, we cannot predict the future. Things are moving so fast and we’re so interconnected that it is impossible to predict where you’ll end up five years from now.
You just don’t know. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing, because you will not be basing your choice of direction based on a forecast that’s likely to be wrong.
You’ll be making your choice on what’s really important to you, right here and right now, not tomorrow.
By recognising and ultimately accepting the unpredictable nature of life, we can stop over-thinking and over-analysing and start living more in the present moment. This helps to open the mind up to the possibilities of today.

2. Try anything. Do something.

When you take action and start doing things, you begin to feel better almost immediately, because instead of thinking about some far off place in your head full of uncertainty, you will be working on something that is really certain: your actions.
So many times, I used to get caught up in the chaos of life and was consumed by it, until I realised that while I cannot control what will happen tomorrow, I can control the actions I take every single day.
That’s the real beauty of life—knowing that you have absolute control over each of your thoughts, words, and actions. 
And by trying, moving, asking, engaging, experimenting, and walking forward, it puts you one step further than where you were yesterday. And you just never know where that one step will lead you.

3. Follow your inner voice. 

I used to feel that if only I knew more, I would be able to make a better decision about the direction I wanted to take in life. But as I dug deeper trying to get more information, the hole got so deep that I found myself buried.
Confused and overwhelmed with so much information, at times conflicting, I just didn’t know what or whom to believe.
Then, I just let go. I let go of all evidence and started following my gut. 
I took chances; I took small steps walking forward in the dark. I stumbled, fell but got back up, and went in a different direction. Then again, and again, and again. As they say, the first step was the hardest but I eventually found my way, not because some data point on a career chart showed me which way to go, but because I started to trust my inner voice.
Sure, it was wrong often, but it got better eventually because I was out there doing and learning—not sitting and waiting.

4. Believe in yourself.

When I first started exploring new opportunities to find the right direction in my life, I found myself overwhelmed by the competition. There were so many others just like me trying and doing what I was doing.
And turning to my friends didn’t offer any respite, because instead of encouraging me to try new avenues, some of them brought me back to where I began. “Why don’t you be more pragmatic?”
Feeding me with seeds of self-doubt, it took me some time to recover my momentum. And it was in the positive voices of so many others in blogs such as this, videos, and social media that I found encouragement to keep at it. It felt like they were talking about me.

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