Wednesday, March 20, 2013

10 ways to be the person YOU WANTED TO BE AS A KID

How to find yourself... be a kid again


“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.” ~Angela Schwindt

Open your eyes and view the world with wonder and excitement like you did as a child. It does not hurt to look from a little persons perspective. Bring back the fun and excitement and ask questions to learn something new. I have learned so much from my daughters watching them grow up and learn through each stage. It is so refreshing to know that you can learn from your children.

Play

That’s how you learned back then. You explored and tried on different hats, and rarely said the word 'can’t' unless your mom was calling you in for dinner. If something sounded fun, you were game. Open up to fun again. Be silly, playful, creative, curious, excited, adventurous, and open. Give your overworked adult mind a break and enjoy experimenting. The only way to create a life that will bring you joy is to use your joy as a compass.

Invite the new kid to your table at lunch

We all wanted to belong back then, and that usually meant staying with the group. But sometimes it backfired on you. Sometimes the new kid was fun. Sometimes the new kid was a great friend. Sometimes the new kid had parents that rented bounce houses for their birthdays. If you only allow yourself to interact with people you know and trust, your world will remain small, albeit manageable. You never know what experiences new acquaintances might introduce you to—and you never know when an acquaintance may turn into a friend that feels like home.

Do not ditch your gym class

It was in the curriculum for a reason: it’s good for you. Shocker, I know! Dodge ball was more than just an opportunity to knock your friends out and be the last kid standing. It got your blood pumping, gave you an energy outlet, and increased your overall health. You can’t do anything in life if you’re too sluggish to get off your couch. This is nothing new—we all know exercise is good for us.

Do not jump off a bridge because your friends are

You don’t want to think of people you love as negative, complacent, or stagnant, but many of them probably are. Thoreau said the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation—and as bleak as that may sound, there’s some truth to it. The majority of people don’t do what they want to do, and feel most comfortable surrounding themselves with similar people.  Don’t be a similar person. Love and accept them as they are, but decide to do it differently. There’s no good reason to be quietly desperate when you can be boldly satisfied. That’s not to say achieving what you want will be easy; but you will respect and admire yourself more when you’re actively living out loud, if not yet in results, in the process.

Realise that you can really paint your bunny green

Back then, you’d pick any color crayon you wanted just because you liked it. You experimented and got creative, even if everyone else went the traditional route. You didn’t know it was thinking outside the box because you never thought to stay inside it. You just did what was fun and exciting. You might not have loved that part of being a kid, but if you got good grades, odds are you did your homework after school. You put in the time, got it over with, and then said yes when your best friend asked you to come out to play.

Ask why the sky is blue

“Ask your teen now, while she still knows everything.” Before you hit puberty, you didn’t know everything, and knew it. You asked all kinds of ridiculous questions because you didn’t think it was ridiculous. Not asking and not learning—that was ridiculous. Don't be afraid to ask why, when, where, or how. You might not look all-knowing or genius, but the truth is no one thinks you are. The jig is up! You can either pretend you have all the answers and annoy people, or acknowledge you don’t and allow yourself to learn more of them. The latter gives you more opportunities to understand the world and grow within it.

Find excuses to have parties
Nothing broke up the monotony of a school day like a punch-and-cupcake party. The kind that starts at recess and bleeds into the afternoon math lesson. The type that makes kids with hall passes poke their heads in and wonder why they’re not having fun, too. As adults we immerse ourselves in striving and wait for reasons to celebrate—to pull out the good china, the good wine, the good life. Don’t wait. Celebrate a non-event whenever you can. Rejoice when you do something well and feel proud. Involve your friends when it’s a sunny day and you can’t wait to enjoy it. As John Petit-Senn said, not what you have but what you enjoy constitutes abundance.

Prefer not being punished
We stay in relationships and situations that don’t serve us because it’s safer than walking away, because moderately painful and familiar is more bearable than the unknown. Don’t punish yourself. Don’t stay alone, don’t stay stuck in a miserable situation, don’t stay because you’re scared to walk away. Don’t beat yourself up for mistakes you made. You don’t deserve to hurt, and you don’t have to. You deserve to let your pain go.

Believe in magic
You can’t re-convince yourself Santa exists, or pretend the walking mouse at Disney is really Mickey. And you shouldn’t want to. Real magic doesn’t lie in creating imaginary realities; it happens when you actively choose to create miracles right  here, in the world as it actually is. Miracles happen every day. People change for the better. People change their ideas of what’s possible. People change the world. Believe in yourself. Believe in your power. Believe you make a difference. You do. And you can do it more. You can leave the world a better place than you found it. You can be the magic that lit up your eyes as a child.


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