Friday, June 1, 2012



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"I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable,but through it all I still know quite 
certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing." Agatha Christie

Choosing to be positive and present in certain situations can be very difficult especially when have some turmoil happening in your life. I have a few things happening in my life at the moment and I need to stay focused and positively present for myself and my precious angels. Here are some points from positively present.

Reading this I am thankful to this very day that my brother stayed positive and present after losing his wife in a car accident nearly 7 years ago. He even said to me after our father passed away in March that he could have chosen so many different paths but we are all so happy and thankful he chose to the path to be positive and present. He is now soon to be married again and has two beautiful children.

1. Accept what you cannot change. 

Life is a mysterious, fragile thing and it's so hard to know why some things happen when they do. To make it through this crazy world in one piece, we must accept what we cannot change. To find peace, we must respect what is. Accepting your current situation may be incredibly difficult but choosing not to accept it only causes angst and stress. Accepting it doesn't mean you like it and doesn't mean you wouldn't give anything to change it... it only means you have a place of peace where you can recognise that some things are out of my control. 

2. Be positively proactive. 

While there are somethings you cannot change - there are other things you do have control over. You cannot always change the situation, but there are still things you can do, actions you can take. However small, there is always something we can do to make even the most difficult situation easier to bear.

 3. Share how you're feeling. 

Talking about pain and sadness makes it seem more real, which can make you hesitant to do it. It sometimes seems braver to keep smiling, to act as if nothing's wrong, but that's actually not very positive or present. It's just pretend. It's okay to experience emotion and it's so helpful to share those emotions with others. Letting it out frees you a little bit, making you feel a little bit lighter. 

 4. Enjoy what you still have. 

Take a step back from your situation where you will realise things are unsettlingly the same. You could choose to lose yourself in sadness or anger - or choose to embrace what you had or still have. In choosing the later, you may even be more thankful for everything. 

 5. Take care of yourself. 

Putting yourself on the back burner is all too common when a difficult situation starts to swallow up all of our time and emotional energy. With an onslaught of new things to worry about, think about, and do, caring for yourself can seem like an indulgence -- but it's necessary to keep yourself positive and present. No matter what else is dominating your day, don't forget to take care of yourself. 

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