Tuesday, February 14, 2012

round the blogosphere FRENCH PARENTING



Reading A Cup of Jo this morning is an interesting topic,'How to raise kids like a French woman'. As a new book has been released, 'Bringing Up Bebe'. By Pamela Druckerman, an American mother of 3 who moved to Paris. As you may know I am totally infatuated with Paris at the moment. Although my daughter's are teenagers, I am really interested in getting a copy for myself. I am ordering my copy now and I will share interesting bits here on the blog as I read. Here is the excerpt shared by Jo on her blog.

1. You can have a grown-up life, even if you have kids. Pamela writes: "The French have managed to be involved with their families without becoming obsessive. They assume that even good parents aren't at the constant service of their children, and that there is no need to feel guilty about this. 'For me, the evenings are for the parents,' one Parisian mother told me. 'My daughter can be with us if she wants, but it's adult time.' "

2. You can teach your child the act of learning to wait. Pamela writes: "It is why the French babies I meet mostly sleep through the night…Their parents don't pick them up the second they start crying, allowing the babies to learn how to fall back asleep. It is also why French toddlers will sit happily at a restaurant. Rather than snacking all day like American children, they mostly have to wait until mealtime to eat. (French kids consistently have three meals a day and one snack around 4 p.m.) A [French mother] Delphine said that she sometimes bought her daughter Pauline candy. (Bonbons are on display in most bakeries.) But Pauline wasn't allowed to eat the candy until that day's snack, even if it meant waiting many hours."

3. Kids can spend time playing by themselves, and that's agood thing. Pamela writes: "French parents want their kids to be stimulated, but not all the time...French kids are—by design—toddling around by themselves....'The most important thing is that he learns to be happy by himself,' [a French mother] said of her son....In a 2004 study...the American moms said that encouraging one's child to play alone was of average importance. But the French moms said it was very important."

4. Believe it when you tell your child "No." Pamela writes: "Authority is one of the most impressive parts of French parenting—and perhaps the toughest one to master. Many French parents I meet have an easy, calm authority with their children that I can only envy. When Pauline [a French toddler] tried to interrupt our conversation, Delphine [her French mother] said, "Just wait two minutes, my little one. I'm in the middle of talking." It was both very polite and very firm. I was struck both by how sweetly Delphine said it and by how certain she seemed that Pauline would obey her...I gradually felt my "nos" coming from a more convincing place. They weren't louder, but they were more self-assured."



I followed most of these tips when bringing up my daughter's, my children always behaved while eating out as we were prepared and took colouring pencils and books to keep them entertained while waiting for their meals. I believe playing by themselves creates role play and opens up the imagination. My children were in bed by 7:30 when they were little and then 8:30 as they got older, even now as teenagers (on a school night) they are in bed at 9:30.

I would love you to share your opinions and thoughts. Do you agree with these parenting styles? What challenges you being a parent? Do any of these points inspire and would you or have you used any of these points in your parenting? What is your parenting style?

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